I Want a Baby but My Husband Doesn’t

I am 32 and have the worst case of “I-want-a-baby-syndrome.” The problem is that my husband is nowhere near ready. I cry sometimes when I visit my friends with children and I have to leave. Please help so I don’t drive my husband looney, pestering him and trying to convince him to have a child now!

The place to start is to gently figure out why your husband isn’t ready. He may be feeling insecure about his job, about your relationship, about money issues (being able to support the family if you’re off work), the political situation, the economy, the environment, or something else. Once you get an idea of the cause, you can help him overcome his fears by offering solutions that ease his concerns-but do it in a supportive way. Putting pressure on him or giving ultimatums is the wrong way to go.

Your Husband and Breastfeeding

I’m breastfeeding our baby and I know my husband is 100 percent supportive. But sometimes I can tell that he’s feeling a little left out. Is there anything I can do to help him? How can he be involved in raising our child when so much of it depends on me and breastfeeding?

You know all about how great breastfeeding is, right? That it’s free, that it never runs out, and that breastfed babies’ diapers don’t stink are major advantages. But there’s a lot more. It gives you and your child a great opportunity to bond. It’s also the perfect blend of nutrients for the baby. Breastfed kids have a much lower chance than formula-fed kids of developing food allergies, respiratory- and gastrointestinal illnesses, or of becoming obese as adults. It may also transmit your immunity to certain diseases on to the baby. Pretty much everyone agrees that you should breastfeed for at least a year if you can.
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Caring for a wife with breast cancer takes a heavy toll on men’s health

Men who care for a wife with breast cancer have weaker immune systems, and more physical symptoms, such as headaches and abdominal pain, than did men whose wives had remained disease-free. And the higher the stress levels, the worse the effect on men, according to a new study done at Ohio State University.

Just to be clear: this is not to suggest that men shouldn’t care for their wives. The point is that it’s important to recognize that caregivers spend so much time focusing on the people they’re caring for that they don’t pay any attention to themselves. And the results—whether the caregiver is a man or a woman—can be devastating.
Read the rest of my post at Talking About Men’s Health.

Do women want their men miserable?

Hmm. But that ‘s what a just-released study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found. Men, it seems, want their wife or girlfriend to be happy. Women, on the other hand, want their husband or boyfriend to “feel their pain.”

Here’s what the study’s lead author, Shiri Cohen, PhD, of Harvard Medical School, said: “It could be that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man’s investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times.”

You can read the whole article here:

http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2012/03/women-happier.aspx

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