When Should Bedwetting Stop?

Dear Mr. Dad: My 7-year old still wets his bed. He’s terribly embarrassed about it and doesn’t want to have sleepovers with friends—at our house or theirs. He seems really stressed about it, and the problem is getting worse with time. How common is it for a 7-year old to be wetting his bed at night? What could be causing it—is it something we’ve done or is he doing it to send us a message? And how can we help him to stay dry?

A: Let’s start with the easy stuff: Nighttime bedwetting is a lot more common than most people think. According to Steve Hodges, co-author of “It’s No Accident,” 20% of five year olds, 10% of 6-year olds, 7% of 8-year olds, and 5% of kids over 10 have occasional or frequent accidents at night.

Before we get into the causes and cures, it’s important to understand that bedwetting is rarely anyone’s fault, and it’s really unlikely that your son is doing it to get back at you. However, you could be making it worse if you’re shaming or punishing your son (more on that below). He already feels plenty of shame, and the toll it’s taking on his self-esteem could be what’s making the problem worse.
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Breakthrough Solutions for Potty Problems

[amazon asin=076277360X&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 1: Steve Hodges, coauthor of It’s No Accident.
Topic: Breakthrough solutions to your child’s wetting, constipation, urinary tract infections, and other potty problems.
Issues: 30 percent of kids 2-10 are chronically constipated and 25 percent of 5-year olds have problems with accidents and bedwetting; how it is that most bed-wetting problems are actually the result of constipation; why toilet training kids too so can lead to wetting problems later; the dangers of holding it in.

Breakthrough Solutions to Potty Problems + What Men Think About Marriage + Secrets of Happily Married Men

[amazon asin=076277360X&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 1: Steve Hodges, coauthor of It’s No Accident.
Topic: Breakthrough solutions to your child’s wetting, constipation, urinary tract infections, and other potty problems.
Issues: 30 percent of kids 2-10 are chronically constipated and 25 percent of 5-year olds have problems with accidents and bedwetting; how it is that most bed-wetting problems are actually the result of constipation; why toilet training kids too so can lead to wetting problems later; the dangers of holding it in.


[amazon asin=0743258738&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 2: Neil Chethik, author of Voicemale.
Topic: What husbands really think about their marriages, their wives, sex, housework, and commitment.
Issues: A unique look at men’s complex inner lives; men’s unique, masculine style of loving; what men are really looking for in the women they love.


[amazon asin=0787994146&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 3: Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets Of Happily Married Men.
Topic: Eight ways men can win their wives hearts forever.
Issues: Eight ways men can win their wives hearts forever.
Issues: Identifying relationship challenges; how men can use their special strengths to improve relationships; overcoming gender stereotypes in marriage.