It’s Okay to Hit and Other Counter-intuitive Rules for Raising Confident Children

[amazon asin=1585429368&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 1: Heather Shumaker, author of It’s OK NOT to Share…
Topic: Renegade rules for raising competent and compassionate kids.
Issues: Completely counter-intuitive but scientifically sound suggestions such as, let kids hit and kick; let her hog that toy all day; bombs, guns, and bad guys allowed; love your kids lies, be buddies with dead birds, and more.

It’s Okay to Hit and other Rules + From Chaos to Calm + Preschool Entertainment Boom

[amazon asin=1585429368&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 1: Heather Shumaker, author of It’s OK NOT to Share…
Topic: Renegade rules for raising competent and compassionate kids.
Issues: Completely counter-intuitive but scientifically sound suggestions such as, let kids hit and kick; let her hog that toy all day; bombs, guns, and bad guys allowed; love your kids lies, be buddies with dead birds, and more.


[amazon asin=1402777647&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 2: Beth Grosshans, author of Beyond Time Out.
Topic: Moving from chaos to calm.
Issues: Why our emphasis on talking and self-esteem is responsible for parental ineffectiveness and children’s unruliness; looking at the imbalance of power in families (where kids have too much and the parents not enough); the parenting styles that most commonly lead to that imbalance of power.


[amazon asin=1416546847&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 3: Dade Hayes, author of Anytime Playdate.
Topic: Inside the preschool entertainment boom.
Issues: The inner workings of the $21 billion business of entertaining babies and toddlers; How the success of Dora the Explorer prompted the development of other multi-lingual shows; the positive effects of media moderate media exposure (as long as it’s supplemented by good parenting).

Could Child Abuse Cause Cancer?

There’s no question that for many children, being abused increases their risk of anxiety, depression, academic and behavioral problems, and other mental health issues. But a researcher at Purdue University (in Indiana) just found an unexpected link between child abuse and cancer. Kenneth Ferraro, a sociologist at Purdue’s Center on Aging and the Life Course, and his colleagues found that frequent abuse by a parent increased a child’s risk of developing cancer as an adult.
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Just when you thought the spanking controversy was over…

A few years ago I read a study–in Parenting magazine, I think–that found that 25 percent of parents spanked their kids. Those were just the people who admitted it. My guess is that it’s closer to 50 percent. If you were to factor in the parents who think  about giving their kids a whack once in a while, you’d probably be up in the high 90s.

So when I read about a study in Germany (where corporal punishment was actually outlawed in 2000) that more than 50 percent of parents admitted that they hit their kids, I immediately jumped to the conclusion that the real numbers are insanely high. Here’s what the study found:
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Hit Me, Baby

Dear Mr. Dad: On weekends my buddy comes over with his 1-year old son. My boy just turned two and has started acting aggressively towards the baby, even hitting him. How can I help them get along?

A: Hopefully your friend isn’t taking your son’s inhospitality personally, because it has nothing to do with him or his baby. As unpleasant as it can be for the people around them, aggressive behavior is very common for toddlers. It’s a normal developmental stage. He’s learning about cause and effect (Hmm. If I poke that little kid, he cries. What would happen if I pulled his hair?) That, however, doesn’t make the aggressive behavior okay. And you need to do whatever you can to stop it.
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