Hey, Mister, is That Your Biological Clock Ticking?

Dear Mr. Dad: My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for quite some time. He’s 45 and I’m 40. We both had extensive testing and it turns out that he has some sperm issues. Our fertility specialist has suggested a number of really expensive treatments, including surgery. Aren’t there any natural options we can try first?

A: We often think of women as the only ones with ticking biological clocks, but men have them too. Starting in their mid-40s, men start developing the “sperm issues” you referred to. In most cases that means one or more of the following: the total number of sperm decreases, they don’t move as quickly or as efficiently, and the number of damaged sperm increases. According to Dr. Brian Clement, coauthor of “7 Keys to Lifelong Sexual Vitality,” sperm count in the current generation of men is only 40 percent of what it was just a generation ago.

To answer your question, you shouldn’t even be considering surgery unless you’ve exhausted all your non-surgical options, including as many of the following as you can:

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Protecting yourself from paternity fraud

Dear Mr. Dad: My wife and I are about to get a divorce. We have a one-year old boy and she’s pregnant with our second. Here’s the problem: She’s been having an affair for the past two years and I’m concerned that the children aren’t actually mine. What can I do to protect myself?

A: I’m sorry about your situation. Divorce is never easy, and it’s even tougher when you’ve been cheated on and children are involved.

Hire a lawyer immediately. Then get DNA tests for you and the children. Expect to pay upwards of $400 for the testing, but given the horror stories I’ve heard from men in your situation, it’s a worthwhile expense.

Your goal is to avoid becoming a victim of “Paternity Fraud.” This is when a mother lies about who a child’s father is for the purposes of monetary gain. In your case, you could be on the hook for 18 or more years of child support for a child or children who aren’t yours.
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