Teaching Values and Coping Skills

[amazon asin=0062196847&template=thumbleft&chan=default]Madeline Levine, author of Teach Your Children Well.
Topic:
Why values and coping skills matter more than grades, trophies, and “fat envelopes.”
Issues: Learning to shift our focus from the excesses of hyperparenting and the unhealthy reliance on our children for status and meaning to a parenting style that concentrates on both enabling academic success and developing a sense of purpose and well-being.

Avoiding Scary Situations May Increase Children’s Anxiety

avoiding scary situations can increase kids' anxiety levels

Do you try to avoid scary situations or are you the kind of person who thinks we need to confront our fears to get over them. If you’re a confronter, a new study from the mayo Clinic is backing you up. Turns out that kids who avoid scary situations are more likely to suffer from anxiety a year later than kids who are slowly exposed to whatever it is that they’re afraid of.

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Helping Dad Grieve

Dear Mr. Dad: My mom passed away three months ago. I moved into my parents’ home to support my dad through these hard times. The problem is that it’s like I’m in prison where I can’t do anything. I feel sad and depressed and find myself crying a lot during the day. Is that normal? My dad and I don’t get along either. He’s messy and I’m not. I like structure and he doesn’t. It’s a nightmare—what can I do?

A: When you look at lists of the most stressful life events, the death of a spouse or close family member and moving to a new house are at or near the top. You and your dad are both dealing with a huge amount of pressure. As a result, it’s not surprising that there’s some friction between you.

Losing a parent is very different than losing a spouse (notice that I’m not saying “more” or “less,” “easier” or “harder”—just “different”).

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