Zero Tolerance for Zero Tolerance, Part II

zero tolerance bullying policies do more harm than good

zero tolerance bullying policies do more harm than goodA few months ago, I wrote a column entitled “Why We Need Zero Tolerance for Zero Tolerance,” which talked about how the current practice of suspending or expelling chlidren from school may be doing more harm than good. In a new policy statement, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) agrees, adding that removing a child from school should be a rare last resort and not a routine punishment for bullying, drug use or other infractions.

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Making Changes + Achieve the Extraordinary + Protect against Bullies

Jeremy Dean, author of Making Habits, Breaking Habits
Topic:
Why we do things why we don’t, and how to make any change stick
Issues: Where do bad habits come from? Why it can take weeks or months to create and implement new behaviors and weed out old ones; avoid frustration and learn to navigate habit-forming pitfalls and successfully build new, long-lasting practices.

Bill Strickland, author of Make the Impossible Possible
Topic:
One man’s crusade to inspire others to dream bigger and achieve the extraordinary.
Issues: A successful life is not something you simply pursue—it’s something that you create; how to stop going through the motions of living and how to savor each and every day; how the way we treat people and ourselves influences the kind of life we have.

Allan Beane, author of Protect Your Child from Bullying
Topic:
Advice to help recognize, prevent, and stop bullying before your child gets hurt.
Issues: Tell-tale signs that your child is being victimized; understanding the characteristics that make a child an easy target; how to give your child a solid foundation for dealing with bullying situations; why not to teach a child to physically retaliate against a bully.

New Approaches to Bullying

www.amazon.co.ukGuest: Carrie Goldman, author of Bullied.
Topic: What every parent, teacher, and kid needs to know about ending the cycle of fear.
Issues: Eye-opening stats on the prevalence of bullying; the harmful effects of bullying on the brain; creating a home environment that produces neither bullies nor victims; why typical school anti-bullying/zero tolerance policies do more harm than good.

Bullies and the Cycle of Fear + Child Safety + The Benefits of Risk and Danger

www.amazon.co.ukGuest: Carrie Goldman, author of Bullied.
Topic: What every parent, teacher, and kid needs to know about ending the cycle of fear.
Issues: Eye-opening stats on the prevalence of bullying; the harmful effects of bullying on the brain; creating a home environment that produces neither bullies nor victims; why typical school anti-bullying/zero tolerance policies do more harm than good.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 2: Paula Statman, author of Raising Careful, Confident Kids in a Crazy World.Topic: Teaching kids to be safe and strong.
Issues: Striking a healthy balance between safety and panic; turning nice kids into safe kids; why scare tactics don’t work; what parents and kids need to know about sex offenders; much more.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 3: Michael Ungar, author of Too Safe for Their Own Good.
Topic: How risk and responsibility help teens thrive.
Issues: Adolescents are safer now than at any time in history—why are we overly protecting them? How bubble-wrapping kids stunts their healthy growth and puts them at harm; the benefits of experiencing manageable amounts of danger.

Teaching Values + The Homeschooling Adventure + Bullies and Asperger’s + Bullyproof Your Child

www.amazon.co.ukGuest 1: Mary O’Dohohue, author of When You Say ‘Thank You,’ Mean It.
Topic: 12 lessons for instilling lifelong values in your children.
Issues: A 12-month program (that’s easy to implement and actually works) for teaching values: gratitude, self-respect, respect for others, integrity, compassion, forgiveness, a sense of joy, commitment, lifelong learning, inner strength, spirituality, and a sense of purpose.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 2: Quinn Cummings, author of The Year of Learning Dangerously.
Topic: Adventures in homeschooling.
Issues: Making the decision to enter the unfamiliar water of homeschooling; the highlights and pitfalls of taking your children’s education into your own hands; what do to—and what not to do along the way.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 3: Nick Dubin, author of Asperger’s Syndrome and Bullying.
Topic: Strategies and solutions for kids with Asperger’s and their parents.
Issues: Almost all children with Asperger’s are victimized by bullies between the ages of 11 and 19; the traits that make children with Asperger’s particularly susceptible to bullying; teaching children how to tell the difference between bullying and true friendship.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 4: Joel Haber, author of Bullyproof Your Child for Life.
Topic: Protecting children from teasing, taunting, and bullying for good.
Issues: How our culture glorifies bullies and holds abusive people (like Simon Cowell on American Idol) up as role models; specific questions, comebacks, and action steps to help any child build resilience and confidence, and thrive in school, camp, sports, and beyond.

When clever discipline becomes child abuse

Remember the story a few months ago about the 15-year old  girl who was forced to get up in front of the whole school and announce that she was pregnant? Or the 14-year old boy whose parents forced him to stand on the street with a sign declaring that he’d receive Fs on his report card?

New research is just now confirming what most sane parents already knew: humiliating punishments actually do more harm than good. And that’s certainly the case with the newest entries into the ”it-seemed-like-a-clever-idea-at-the-time” category of parental stupidity.

Child sitting in a corner

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