Stop Blaming Parents and Start Dealing with Mental Illness

Dear Mr. Dad: I’m in shock about the Connecticut school shooting. I blame it on the parents of the killer. If they would have done a better job, including keeping their son away from guns, this whole thing might have been avoided. Why can’t we take children away from people like that and have them raised by truly loving parents?

A: Like you, I see the murder of 26 people as a terrible, terrible tragedy. But I disagree with the rest.

Adam Lanza was a loner had had few friends. But what makes you think his parents were unfit or didn’t love him? Over the next few months, we’ll have important national debates about parenting styles and gun control. I worry, though, that in our rush to find scapegoats, we’ll overlook a far bigger issue: Tens of thousands of parents struggle every day to raise children with severe mental illness.

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When Adoption Doesn’t Go As Planned

Guest 1: Samantha Feuss, adoptive mother of two.
Topic: When adoption doesn’t work out.
Issues: The risks of international adoptions; what agencies don’t tell you about your adopted child’s background, age, and more; worries about being judged if an adoption goes bad; finding support from other parents and social workers who understand what it’s like.

The Other Side of Adoption + Nannies for Modern Mom + Undernurtured Kids

Guest 1: Samantha Feuss, adoptive mother of two.
Topic: When adoption doesn’t work out.
Issues: The risks of international adoptions; what agencies don’t tell you about your adopted child’s background, age, and more; worries about being judged if an adoption goes bad; finding support from other parents and social workers who understand what it’s like.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 2: Alyce Desrosiers, author of Nannies for Modern Moms.
Topic: Hiring the right nanny for your child and you.
Issues: What type of nanny do you need? Pitfalls to finding the right nanny; determining the right “fit” for your child; evaluating and eliminating candidates.


www.amazon.co.ukGuest 3: Anne Pierce, author of Ships without a Shore.
Topic: America’s Undernurtured Children.
Issues: Many of the problems afflicting America’s young people are rooted in the very practices that area meant to help them; many of the change in what’s considered acceptable parenting are based on untested theories and false beliefs; are we creating kids without a moral compass?.