Rejections are the emotional cuts and scrapes of daily life. We get turned down by romantic partners, our colleagues get together without inviting us, our spouses rebuff our sexual advances, our neighbors don’t invite us to their holiday parties, and our friends ignore our posts and Tweets on social media platforms. The one thing all […]
If you’ve ever spent any time on the web, you’ve probably found yourself furious at something you read—so furious that you sit down and shoot off an angry response. Kinda feels good, doesn’t it? But the problem with venting and ranting is that after the initial burst of satisfaction with having gotten things off your [...]
[amazon asin=1433811936&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 1: Mary Lamia, author of Emotions!
Topic: Making sense of your feelings.
Issues: Anxiety can improve creativity and productivity; guilt helps you maintain your relationships; showing pride in your accomplishments can help you socially; venting anger doesn’t help; overvaluing happiness can actually lead you to be less happy.
[amazon asin=0738211850&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 2: Tamar Chansky, author of Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking.Topic: Practical strategies to build a lifetime of resilience, flexibility, and happiness.
Issues: Understanding what negative thinking is and how it affects our children; challenging your child’s mind; helping your child find and apply his or her strengths.
[amazon asin=0345501799&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 3: Frances Cole Jones, author of How to Wow.
Topic: Proven strategies for presenting your ideas, persuading your audience, and perfecting your image.
Issues: Making a lasting impression with a simple introduction; using the 12 most persuasive words in the English language to command any situation; reading non-verbal responses accurately; motivate others; deliver speeches that bring people to their feet.
Dear Mr. Dad: My wife and I have a good marriage, but once in a while we get into a yelling match that makes me glad we don’t live in an apartment! There’s never any physical contact, neither of us misses the chance to slam a door or kick the furniture to make a point. We know we’re just venting and we always make up just fine afterwards, but it’s the kids I worry about. Is it doing them any harm to see their parents fight? If so, how can we break the habit?
A: The short answer is, yes, living in a high-conflict home may be doing some short- or long-term damage to your children. According to a recent joint study by the Universities of Rochester and Notre Dame, children who see their parents in angry conflict on a regular basis are more likely to feel negative emotions and stress and to develop long-lasting, negative impressions of marriage and family life. Rather than becoming accustomed to the hostility, children actually become more sensitive to it and less resilient as time goes by.