Dating for Dads

Dear Mr. Dad: I’ve been divorced for almost a year and I’m just getting to the point where I’m thinking about dating again. My kids (8 and 10) and I have a very close relationship and we talk about everything. But when I mentioned dating to them, instead of being happy for me, they were angry. Is there anything I can do to get them to be a little more supportive?

A: Close relationships between parents and their young children are wonderful for everyone. But occasionally lines can get blurred, which is exactly what happened with you. Your social life will undoubtedly affect your children—especially if you get into a serious relationship. But it sounds like you’ve given them the impression that their close relationship with you entitles them to an actual vote in the matter. It’s really none of their business. You’re their parent, not their friend, end of discussion.

Aside from the boundary issue, your children may simply not want to share you with anyone. It’s been just the three of you for a long time, and they enjoy having you all to themselves. Any time you spend with other people—whether it’s going out for a beer with a buddy or dating a woman who’s not their mother—is time you won’t be spending with them. You’re in a delicate spot here, but here are few steps you can take to get your kids on board (or at least to reduce their hostility).
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Here’s Why You Should Travel by Car This Thanksgiving

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thansgiving travel

You’ve heard that the day before Thanksgiving is the busiest travel day of the year, right? Well, it turns out that is a myth. Troy Green of AAA told NPR there are five to 10 days over the summer that are even busier. That’s not to say that Thanksgiving travel is a breeze; 66 percent of Americans plan to travel by car this Thanksgiving, according to Skyscanner, a flight, hotel and car hire search engine. And the U.S Department of Transportation reports that during the six-day Thanksgiving travel period, 91 percent of long-distance trips are made by personal vehicle. Traveling by car is the best way to avoid exorbitant flight fares and holiday crowds. Still not convinced? We’ve listed the best reasons to travel by car this Thanksgiving:

You Get to Call the Shots

When your Uncle Harold is telling about his cat for the 100th time, you’ll probably be eager for an escape plan. Traveling by car gives you the means to make a quick getaway. In all seriousness, this way you aren’t tied to a flight plan. And for those self-proclaimed procrastinators out there, driving might be your only option if you left buying plane tickets for the last minute.

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Toyota Venza: Smart and Stylish

2014 toyota venza

2014 toyota venzaLet’s get the disclosure stuff out of the way up front. Toyota gave me the use of a 2014 Venza—how else am I supposed to do an honest review? No, they didn’t pay me, and yes, all the opinions are mine.

The Toyota Venza is a crossover, meaning that it’s smaller than an SUV but bigger than a station wagon. But on the inside, it still feels like an SUV—and I mean that in the nicest way possible. It’s roomy and comfortable, the roof is high enough to accommodate fairly tall people, and it has all sorts of cargo-schlepping space–30.7 cubic feet, to be exact; more than double that when you fold down both sides of the 60/40 split rear seat.
It has the high ride of an SUV, which allows for plenty of visibility, but the ride is smooth and it handles the tight turns in the Bay Area hills like a car.
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Understanding Worrisome Childhood Behavior


Bonny Forrest, author of Will My Kid Grow Out of It?
Topic:
A child psychologist’s guide to understanding worrisome behavior.
Issues: Common concerns and possible diagnoses; even babies get the blues; does my child have autism spectrum disorder? Does my child have ADHD? Sad or clinically depressed? Eating disorders; when to get help and whom to turn to.