Recently the American Urological Association (AUA) announced new guidelines for prostate specific antigen (PSA) testing. These guidelines were designed to help urologists, and ultimately patients, reduce prostate cancer mortality by making informed screening decisions. These recommendations were based on comprehensive literature reviews and the strength of the existing evidence. Here is what you need to [...]
Over the years, we’ve done a number of posts on this blog about how much exercise we (and our children) should be getting. The general consensus is at least 30 minutes every day (or a total of 150 minutes per week). Unfortunately, about 80% of us aren’t coming anywhere near that target. So, in what [...]
Dear Mr. Dad: A few months ago, you wrote a column about how boys can have eating disorders, including anorexia. Since anorexia is usually about body image, I started wondering whether boys’ body image issues could be making them obsessed with building muscle. Is that possible?
A: It’s not only possible, it’s a real condition. What you’re describing is technically called “muscle dysmorphia,” but because that’s such a mouthful, a lot of people call it “bigorexia” instead. A strange word, but one that really gets the point across. Anorexics look in the mirror and, no matter how skinny they are, they see a fat person. Bigorexics look in the mirror and, no matter how buff they are, they see a 98-pound weakling. The condition affects mainly men, but some women can suffer from it as well.
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Yes. Complementary medicine means those techniques not considered part of conventional (standard/mainstream) medicine. These therapies are utilized in addition to or a as complement to traditional medical practices. When this approach is combined with regular medical care, it is referred to as integrative medicine. [Read more...]
It seems like every day there’s more interesting news about the benefits of vitamin D. Here are a few of the most recent: We’ve all physically overdone it at some point—say, by lifting more than you should have, running or biking or swimming further than you should have, playing basketball longer than you should have, [...]
Sarah Smiley, military wife, mom, columnist, and author of Dinner with the Smileys, just reviewed my book, The Military Father: A Hands-on Guide for Deployed Dads. Over the years, my books have been reviewed hundreds of times, but this might be the nicest one ever.
Sarah calls The Military Father possibly “the most comprehensive and contemporary book about deployments that I’ve ever read.” And she concludes by saying that the book is “an easy and interesting read sure to make you chuckle. It’s a unique blend of parenting book and military how-to, and for anyone who is about to face a deployment, it will be on my list of recommendations.”
You can read the complete review here.
You can also listen to an interview I did with Sarah about her wonderful book, Dinner with the Smileys, on my radio show, “Positive Parenting,” by clicking here.
Oh, and just FYI, I just released an iOS app based on The Military Father. You (or someone in a military family close to you) can download it–for free–from the Apple App Store. Just look for “Mr. Dad on Military Dads.”
Full text of the article:
‘Military Father’ comes just in time. Or not.
From Ft. Hood Herald — http://kdhnews.com/fort_hood_herald/opinion/military_buzz/military-father-comes-just-in-time-or-not/article_a40e778e-ee56-11e2-ad83-001a4bcf6878.html
Posted: Wednesday, July 17, 2013 4:30 am
By Sarah Smiley | 0 comments
Just in time (or not — keep reading), and on the heels of my previous columns about fatherhood and the military, comes Armin Brott’s book “The Military Father: A Hands-on Guide for Deployed Dads.”
Brott is a former Marine with a syndicated newspaper column, “Ask Mr. Dad,” and radio show, “Positive Parenting.” He has built his post-military career around writing and talking about issues of fatherhood and families. But in “The Military Father,” he has written what might possibly be the most comprehensive and contemporary book about deployments that I’ve ever read.
I’ve been a military dependent since the day I was born 36 years ago, so you’d think I know it all. I don’t. I devoured “The Military Father” in the course of a day. And although the advice comes nearly one year too late for me, perhaps it can help someone else.
I knew “The Military Father” was no “Service Etiquette” rerun when I opened to the third page and found a cartoon that in one ink-and-paper sketch sums up many of my deployment experiences, and in particular the year in which we did our “Dinner with the Smileys” project. A mother and two children are eating dinner with a computer at the head of the table. Above the mother it reads, “Julie honey, please refresh your father.”
But of course Brott “gets it;” He’s been there, done that. In the beginning, he introduces himself as a “former Marine,” but quickly follows that up with, “I know, I know, once a Marine, always a Marine.” He was busy writing books (six of them, actually) about fatherhood in general, when he noticed an uptick in 2001 of parenting questions from service members. (Hmmmm. 2001? Probably not a coincidence.) So he decided to write a different kind of book about fatherhood, one geared toward the military family in particular.
Soon after the introduction, Brott further proves his military experience with a text box titled “When you’re in, you’re in. When you’re out, you could still be in.” This made me smile — perhaps you are smiling, too — and my confidence in Brott was sealed. He’s referring to the military’s ability to recall supposedly discharged members who are automatically placed in the Individual Ready Reserve and the “stop loss” fine print whereby a former service member with special training can be called back into service at any time.
Later, Brott had me squarely in his back pocket when he addressed the pink-elephant of a question that surrounds nearly all military deployments. Maybe you are thinking it right now. “Why do military families need a book about coping with deployments? Didn’t they sign up for this? Didn’t they know all this before they married someone in the military?” Brott assures readers — even seasoned military families — that shock, sadness and fear are a natural response to deployments … even when you know that deployments are bound to happen.
“The Military Father” is peppered with great moments like this to make you feel normal. It’s also full of what I’ve come to realize is Brott’s natural wit and humor.
His style is conversational and funny. “Having an argument by e-mail,” he writes, “is like skiing through a revolving door: neither fun nor effective.”
Although Brott makes a disclaimer in the beginning that he is not a doctor (nor a financial planner, accountant, lawyer or congressman), in the section titled “A Brief Overview of Your Child’s Development,” he pegs some of my children as if he lives next door to them (he doesn’t):
“There are pouts galore as your six-to-seven-year-old becomes increasingly taken with the notion that people are unfair and favor everyone else — especially younger children.”
The book is divided into three sections: pre-deployment, deployment and post-deployment. Each section addresses the concerns of the service member (“What’s going on with you”), the concerns of the spouse (“What’s going on with your wife”), and the concerns of the children (“What’s going on with your children”).
There is page after page of advice and concrete ways to deal with deployments. Some of these ideas are tired (like counting down the days to homecoming with a jar full of M&Ms), but many of them aren’t, like writing a letter to your child and then cutting it up into a puzzle for them to put together first.
In any case, “The Military Father” is an easy and interesting read sure to make you chuckle. It’s a unique blend of parenting book and military how-to, and for anyone who is about to face a deployment, it will be on my list of recommendations.
Navy spouse Sarah Smiley is a syndicated columnist and author of “Dinner With the Smileys,” a memoir of a year of dinners and motherhood.
Let me say up front that I understand why women want the men and boys in their life to put toilet seats down. I’ve got two sisters, three daughters, a mother, and several ex-wives, all of whom reminded me more than once about the unpleasantness of falling into the toilet. So, yeah, I get it. But I just came across a study that makes a pretty good case for why leaving the seat up may be necessary.
[amazon asin=B0064XB8CG&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 1: Tom Sturges, author of Grow the Tree You Got.
Topic: 100 ideas for raising amazing adolescents and teenagers.
Issues: Learning to let go; the importance of making mistakes; punishing with kindness; what rivers can teach us about adolescents; seven ways to keep the peace.
[amazon asin=145057842X&template=thumbnail1&chan=default]Guest 2: Abby Kohut, author of Absolutely Abby’s 101 Job Search Secrets.
Topic: Success tips for teen job seekers and their parents.
Issues: Why you’re on a Never Ending Interview whether you know it or not; How to be resilient in the face of rejection; The importance of LinkedIn, Twitter & Facebook to your job search; How and why you should interview your next boss; How to use retro technology as part of your new strategy.
Back when we were in high school or college, if we wanted to do a little teen drinking and get drunk, we raided our parents’ liquor cabinet, went out and bought some beer (or scotch), or got an older sibling or friend to get it for us. But today, teens looking for a quick high have a lot more choices. In this guest post, Melissa gives us some startling insights into a problem there’s a good chance you’ve never heard of.
There are many crazy things teens and college students are experimenting with to get drunk these days. While many of us simply turn a blind eye or think “my son or daughter would never be that stupid”, these are real issues that our teens or future teens are attempting to either show off or to be cool.
While not all of these teen drinking trends are used by every teen, the popularity of attempting dangerous or outlandish things while drinking and then posting the results on YouTube is growing immensely. So we as parents not only have to educate our teens about alcohol and drugs but also have to educate them on the dangers of social media and publicizing too much on YouTube, Face book, or wherever. Once it’s online, it can’t be erased and too many teens are not thinking about how these videos could damage their future careers or reputations, not to mention their health.
Here are some of the latest teen drinking crazes:
- Eyeball Shots. Just do a You Tube search of eyeball shots and you get over 7 pages of results. Eye shots are done by filling 10% of shot glass with alcohol and then pouring it in the eye ball quickly. Some however attempt to pour more or less into their eye. Some describe the feeling as going blind temporarily or extreme burning. The theory behind eye ball shots is that the alcohol will be quickly absorbed by the mucus membranes surrounding the eye. Leading medical experts, however, argue that this is not an effective way to get intoxicated quickly and could cause serious damage to a person’s vision.
- Drinking hand sanitizer. It only takes a few gulps to apparently feel the effects. Containing over 120 proof, hand sanitizer has significantly more alcohol in it than vodka, which is around 80 to 90 proof. Teens and young adults also find a thrill in drinking this product as a way to sneak around and get drunk in school. The problem is, drinking hand sanitizer is a fairly new trend so it’s harder for the drinker or others around them to gauge overdose or warning signs. The pure speed of intoxication by drinking hand sanitizer is alarming.
- Inhaling alcohol. A new fad created to get drunk in seemly no time. That is because inhaling or smoking alcohol vapors will bypass the stomach and go right into the blood stream. “Instructional” videos are also popping up all over You Tube as a “fun” “new” way to drink. Unfortunately many teens are mixing several types of alcohol quickly, because inhaling alcohol is nothing like drinking a glass or shot of liquor. This can lead to a high risk of overdose or alcohol poisoning.
There are many other weird teen drinking crazes kids these days are trying, and these are just a few examples. While there is truly no way to prevent your teen from experimenting with alcohol in college or even on a night out, it is best to talk to them about alcohol overdose or poisoning. Teach them warning signs of an overdose, the right actions to take, and the consequences of drinking. As a parent we can only do so much but prevention is the key and it just may save their life in certain situations. Remember the best way to approach your teen is with a calm and understanding tone, anything else may send them running the other way.
Melissa is the Public Relations Coordinator for St. Jude Retreats–-a non-12 step alternative to conventional alcohol and drug rehab.