Keep on Scrapping—Just Do It Right

Dear Mr. Dad: My wife and I have been fighting a lot for the past few months. I know arguments are a pretty normal part of a relationship, but I’m concerned that our battles are starting to affect our two kids, ages 4 and 6. Both of them have been behaving differently lately—acting out, having trouble sleeping, and even squabbling between themselves much more than we used to. I can’t help but think that our arguments are rubbing off on them somehow. How can we stop our fighting and how do we reverse the damage I’m sure we’ve already done?
A: You’re absolutely right about two things: First, fighting with your spouse is perfectly normal. Frankly, I’d be pretty suspicious of any relationship that didn’t have its ups and downs. Not letting the sparks fly once in a while is a good indicator that one or both partners are feeling apathetic and would be better off apart. Second, children are extremely sensitive to the emotions of the adults around them, and the fight s they’re witnessing are almost certainly affecting your kids—probably more than you know. There’s a right way—and lots of wrong ways—to fight. Here’s what you need to know.

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Melinda Blau, co-author of Family Whispering.
Topic:
Communicating and connecting with the people you love and making your whole family stronger.
Issues: Shifting from “parent think” to “family think;” the three factors that make each family unique; qualities that inspire cooperation and commitment; sibling rivalry; giving vs. grandstanding; why some families function better than others.

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Coping with a Mentally Ill Adult Child + Family Whisperer


Joel Young, author of When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart.
Topic:
Coping with substance abuse, mental illness, and the problems that tear families apart
Issues: How parents can combat self-blame; identifying manipulative behavior; why most psychiatric disorder are treatable; how to support–rather than stigmatize–parents of mentally ill adult children.

 


Melinda Blau, co-author of Family Whispering.
Topic:
Communicating and connecting with the people you love and making your whole family stronger.
Issues: Shifting from “parent think” to “family think;” the three factors that make each family unique; qualities that inspire cooperation and commitment; sibling rivalry; giving vs. grandstanding; why some families function better than others.